A female blogger is mystified at all the diet-discouraging comments she receives, now that she’s “come out of the closet,” so to speak, about trying to lose weight.
It’s not mysterious at all. Honey, they’re telling you “Oh, you look good! You don’t need to lose weight!” because your self-discipline and desire to look hotter and more sexy are a direct threat to their own egos.
Maybe for some of them it’s unconscious and they do mean well; but I wouldn’t count on anyone who says that being totally unaware of the self-serving nature of their discouraging you.
For women, I would say, if you want to lose weight and you’re serious about changing your diet for the good of your health, find a group of like-minded people, and demote to “friendly acquaintance” anyone who isn’t supportive and tells you “You look great!” when you know damn well you’re carrying an extra 30 lbs that you’d look better without. (And if you’ve had an eating disorder and want objective assessment, find a fitness professional to work with – someone who’s been trained to help people sculpt their bodies without destroying their health.)